How to find a good accountability partner

There are MANY places where you can find good accountability partners.

Let’s start with the ones you already know:

Your Family

Assuming you have a good relationship with them (lucky you): Mom, Dad, brother, and sister could be a good place to start.

Pros:

  • They’re your blood – so you can probably trust them (Especially Mom)
  • You see them a lot (hopefully)
  • You have the same values (good ones, I hope)

Cons:

  • You have a lot of intimacy, so it’s tough to assume a professional/serious role.
  • Could affect your relationship with them – and you have a lot to lose.
  • Parents can assume a judgmental role, instead of a supportive one.

Your Current Friendships

You have friends, right? People you can trust with your life? So, why not trust them with your goals!? Tell them about your specific goal and ask for their support. If they’re really your friends, they’ll want to see you succeed.

Pros:

  • They love you and want what’s best for you.
  • You can trust them.
  • You probably already have a lot in common.

Cons:

  • They’ll be cautious and take it easy on you in order to not hurt your feelings (which may be a bad thing).
  • They can agree to help you… but quit midway.
  • They can confuse your friendship role with your accountability role and this may affect your friendship.

Your Work Place

You do have a job, right? (If not, please skip this option.) These are people who you already see on a daily basis, so why not use each other (in a good, ethical way).

Pros:

  • You already have a good working professional relationship (I’m assuming.)
  • You can check-in every day or every week (in person).
  • If you have a work related goal, it makes a lot of sense (unless you are competing for the same job).

Cons:

  • It could get into the way of your professional relationship. Nobody wants that, right?
  • It could distract you from that important report your boss asked you to do.
  • Your peers could see it as a political alliance, feel threatened and plot to get you fired (Ok, maybe that’s a bit of a stretch). But it could happen.

Your Social Networks

I’m talking about FacebookInstagramLinkedinSnapchat and whatever else you use. These are your virtual buddies. Why not create a virtual accountability relationship?

Pros:

  • You probably have hundreds – if not thousands of virtual buddies. This gives you a huge option pool from which to chose from.
  • You can join a group dedicated to accomplishing the goal you are aiming for, like for example: losing weight, or quit smoking and have access to a whole community of like-minded individuals.
  • Meeting virtually can increase the chance that you actually get things done. Times are scarce these days, am I right?

Cons:

  • “He who has a million different acquaintances – has no one for a friend”. Who said that? Not sure. 🙂 But the point is… when you really don’t know a person – how much can you trust them?
  • A virtual relationship is fine. But if that person is only available online – you could be missing out.
  • It may be tough to find a person with similar goals and level of motivation.

Your Group Activities

Do you go to Church, practice any group sports or volunteer? These could be great places to find accountability partners.

Pros:

  • You already have a lot in common (religious beliefs or love of hobby in question) 
  • You probably share similar values, ethics and morals.
  • You can meet them personally for extra support.

Cons:

  • Same as with other relationships, your accountability partner relationship may affect your personal relationship.
  • You may be sick of seeing them already. (Sorry for the radical honesty)
  • This could disrupt the other relationships you have with other members of the group. Tip: Feel free to be honest about this and ask them if they would like to join. Three’s a party, right!?

 

There you go! Those are some of the places you can find accountability partners. Good luck to ya!